I have seen both Man and Woman who struggled in life. My Mom was born in lower middle class and did her household helping her mom since she was very young and then joined a job and then did household at in lawas house and parallely taking care of me too.. waking early, cookinglunch and breakfast before 7 and send my dad to office and then make me get ready to school and then start to office and then work as type writer assistant.. she would struggle to type after travelling in bus for an hour to office and still had to do it. and again travel back with the only hope of watching me play with her and then again cook dinner and clean vessels and get back to sleep.. and this was her life tilll now. On the counterpart, my dad had to go to job at 17 as a traineee.. I remember my dad coming at night 11 after working two shifts so that he can clear up loans or give his kids better life. i would wait to see him with my mom till 10.55 PM and pretend to sleep in front of my dad and would sleep for real .Dad Used to struggle to complete one loan and another will crop up. When most of the guys of his age where after proposing females, dad used to mind business and thinking of doing something to clear his father's loans.
Am not here putting my sad stories of family.. Its always said Women life is a sacrifice. Is that Syndrome only for Woman.. How about the guys' (ur Father,my father) sacrifice?Both Men and Women sacrifice for the well being of thier offsprings and also their family. Why is it always said girls sacrifice! Even i have seen guys who dont get married for second after losing their life. Guys mainly marry cos they cant raise kids properly without females. I agree 100% on this. u ask me to take care of kid . First time i would say " sweety, u shud not cry" .. next it would be " u want doll " , then " Wat you need, i can get u " ,then "please dont cry" and finally " if u cry,am gonna beat u" .. i dont know anythin more than this.. so how do you expect me to take care of kids.. !! All guys would take care of kid like this only.. Many marry for the same and many dont marry for the same that they fear tht the new mother wont take care of it.
I read a blog saying Girls feeling for sex was not considered while considering the second marriage. in the sense, why does society tell that Men need a female for his desire and why not the society accept that females also need Men for Sex. Everyone knows that Girls need man for Sex also, they just feel shy to tell that . They jus put it in the decent way saying she needs support ,security and all.. just imagine wat if everyone tells Does not the girl body need a Man? then the meaning of marriage itself will deteriorate.. and get back to animal senses.
i hav read that basic necessities for life are air,food and water but these days ppl started including Sex too..Sounds funny though..
frank truth about our society is we are little closed.. Thts y we dont put things obvious. Everyone knows wat happens after marriage, but ppl in our culture put everythin in the decent way in order to maintain the moral need rather than the materialistic or physical need. thts does not mean we are doin some injustice to Woman.
there was never a basic necessity for a woman to study in hindu society though woman had been setting examples all through ages. Its not cos to over ride their thoughts but it was classified as responsibilities. Woman took care of family issues while man made money aking care of scoiety. There are books to define how men and women should live family life in "Aganaanooru" and social life in "Puranaanoooru". Men had thier own responsibilities and women thier own. Sacrificing life for bravery was a deed for Men while the same for the sake of family was a deed for woman. There is so bliss if ppl read all these and follow.
Even in buses we have "Ladies Seat" and not Seat for Men. If ppl say Women are fighting liberation, consitution writtten by Men should never bear any privilege for Women rite.. but its not so. Men gave their seats to standing Women till they asked a tired guy to stand up saying this is " Ladies Seat" .
Can a boy lead a life without studying and doing nothing in life by just getting money from his father.. ? how many guys do it? Guys hav been working and are working till death.. Is it not a sacrifice.. In order to get tht job,they had to study rigourously.., to give a proper life to parents initially and then wife and children.. is it not a good sacrifice worth talking bout.. I guess men dont show love and affection as obvious as women cos they feel feminish doin tht..But Men too love their children and want to give the best they could to thier children.
Women, am not lowering ur sacrifices.. am jus showing up Sacrifices of Men which is hidden by them for their modesty :P..
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Men, they are treated just like dogs by many. Just because of a few bastards, the entire community looks at men with disdain.
Good post, i can add a few more points on this.
But hey, i am not the one who is gonna talk about the sacrifices i make, If it isn't recognized why care?
Yes, I feel. She has been doing so many sacrifices,particularly. Her sacrificing starts from here:
1. Before marriage, she obey to her father and mother irrespective of her wish.
2. When she get married, she takes her husband house as her own, and become very much worried and concerned than any other.
3. Unless her affection, love, no house can be build with peace and happy/
4. She treats her husband as her first son.
5. If she ask her husband for jewelery and mainly gold, that is not for herself she say, she wanted to show how great her husband treating her and if she has a baby girl or like that, this gold can be useful in their severe or whenever in need of money.
6. Even she become old, she never leave caring her husband and his work.
7. Even now, abortions are taking place. It's not because of her dislike towards the child rather, she feel it as a adorn and boon to her life. But she get ready for abortion, only for her husband saying. Even if u see after delivery, she only get ready to go again for family planning operation and not that husband, unless or until he become ready or insists hus to take up.
She is playing roles of:
1. daughter ( she becomes doll to her father)
2. Lover ( give her love, affection and make him feel great.He get meaning of a sexual feeling and attachment from her.)
3. Wife (shares everything of his life. Come to him as if her whole life is now his own.)
4. Mother( no need to describe this, every human knows abt her sacrifice and affection)
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