Virginity-is it jus for Men:
Did a rape victim lose her virginity..? i would say no. Definition for virginity had been through changes for past two thousand years. In 2000 yeard old thirukural ,We have definition for virginity as "Its the conscience of a man/woman that she dint give up physically or mentally to any Woman/Man" .So where did the Hymen came into picture? First men Used to wear the traditional "Metti" in the fingers of foot once he is married. Women dint even look the face of the guy who wore Metti. But With time, they realised whats wrong in jus looking..Its just nature's creation and then came physics ,chemistry biology between men and Women. So ,later virginity was refined as its the concept that No Man/Women is said to lost his virginity if he he/she dint fall in love. Even those days Men and Women met in privacy to explore each other.Then Comes Hymen into picture also with it broke the trust of Men on Women and Women on Men. Both Genders started thinking "Am the first guy/girl in his/her life" .Thats why hymen concept was spread among other ppl who were not in love that if Hymen is open for a Woman,then she is not a virgin and just twenty years, there were killings in Africa since the groom found his bride not to be virgin cos of the absence of Hymen.So .,Woman has something to mark her virginity..is it?
There are examples in ancient culture, that a Woman hates her husband just because his chest was seen by Women from Balcony when he comes after winning a war through the Streets. There was discipline and still there were illecit relationships. Nowadays we seem to loosen the rules and wat u see is that the definition of virginity has gone through another definition change.
Girls are boys say "I dont bother about whom she slept with before marriage, i just care about future" .How do you feel? So cute and romantic huh!!! I feel its stupid and very narrow definition for broadmindedness. This one statement shakes down the meaning of love and Friendship and started spoiling relationships. If a girl/boy tells that " Am sleeping with many guys and am giving to pleasure to many " , why do ppl call their attitude sluttish. Instead you can put garland and wish for their bright future of service mentality rite!! When Women had their first Sex with husband, they believed this is what Sex is and everywhere its the same.. But what willl be the thinking of any girl who slept with more than one.. "Who was better? Can it get any better?" You know what will happpen further. Am not able to understand why marriage is so important . Ppl give importance to one Wedding ring or hindu "Thali" than trust of a man or Woman. Dont you feel its kiddish to say that , i tie u one rope in neck or a finger in one ring and u shud not sleep with other man or do anything else that might hurt family values.. Cant ppl live with trust. ?
I call that trust as virginity. I dont know how others take it. One faliure, and next love and move on.. Wats this?? is it semester exam that you write with arrear exam for every six months?
I dont understand even how ppl sleep with second lover with love? Nowadays ppl kill that conscience and call themselves civilized .Sorry to say ,am not civilized if this is wat broadmindedness and civlized really means..
i support the old definition for virginity rather the new ones.. Cos i predict the future definitions for virginity could be
" Oh nice to hear!! tht girl dint sleep with more than ten guys.. She is such a virgin "
"Wow, u never slept with any guy for past ten years?? u r a Virgin"
"Great!! u slept with girls only before marriage.. u R Virign Man"
Though i cud see ppl who laugh at this.. i want others to think that how old rules had been keeping the previous generations happy.. Also, i want to quote an example.. Even knowing that their head will be cut if the Queen slept with the negro workers, Queen slept with them. So just think about the liberation of the definition for virginity could do!! I Owe this statement both to men and women.
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Loads of new stuff explored in your post :P
Definition of this virginity is being modified and used for ones own needs. Like you said, this will keep changing as generations change. I agree with your point of girls being regarded as holy and important, the one gender who is known to be pure. I lived with the same beliefs as well, probably thats one reason we find it hard to digest the dark realities we are facing these days.
that one line about being civilized, man, i loved it.
Good post mk, you'll get better from here man. :)
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