I am not trying to find out love for humanity or motherly love as love takes its different forms I want to know about love between opposite sex betweeen the age of 14 and 30 .
In fourteen, these days ,girls are itnerested in brilliancy or at an athlete or one of his close friend who wants to spend time with. Mostly they are impressed with gifts and soft words. After that comes possessiveness love, comapanionship love, love for body ,love for comfort and many.. So wats expectation of a girl in love. If i prepare a list of needs, it seems biggggg one. But if i ask them,they will tell me two words, he should be understanding, Friendly and good human being. I dont give importance to looks. :) etc. But when you see them getting interested towards a guy, he will not meet any of this characteristics. initially masculinism attracts but with time they call it domination. Similiarly, In case of guys, they call a girl caring and finally it becomes over protective and irritating.
am confused to core. Love has perceptions from each other's views. There are people who give life for it and ruin lives and some dont give a damn about it. So ,Who is rite in this? Does practicality work everywhere? If everyone tries to be practical with their life,then there will be individual human species and no society and culture and you are back as uncivilized and again you start creating culture from ruins making analysis. Why to spoil and rework to put it proper?
So getting back to topic.. how much importance should be given to this so called relationship called love? just fall blind or always watch carefully with insecure feelings. Nobody wants to take life seriously but things happen that they get grave serious. Guy initially tries to be showing that he is confident and cool but with time, he shows his originality with time which would be a kid in him or a serious character. Girls mostly are sacrificial in this and try to help each other and get the family going while some break relationships.
If living for today is all about ,why do we make savings? In Western countries where the economy is spending economy ,people rejoice the comforts of having fun alone while eastern countries having savings economy struggle all the life. Love is a add-on package for them in real life. while it is life for eastern culture. Since some people make a wrong patch of this, it ruins the life of many. Trying to justify comparing to worst thing is not a good practise. just try for betterment.
While My russian friends in India tell that "Wish i were born in india..i love it so much for thousand reasons" ,why do you want yourself to do something and screw up ur culture which you have in your heart killing with thoughts of brain like live in relations. If someone wants to survive, go for a live in relation .If you want to live, Love and get married.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Friday, August 1, 2008
wat do women do after love failure?
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am sure everyone is smiling or looking angrily at this post. coz we have a saying here that goes like Shahjahan built Taj mahal for his love but no mumtaz builteven a hut for her lover. So i got curious whether love really hurts Women as much it does men. actually am expecting lotsa comments from women side coz i really dont know.
One of my friend (a girl) was in tears for a month after her love break up that i felt very sad for her. But in next few months, she called me up to say "am in love" .I felt her attitude sluttish though i dint tell anythin bout tht to her. I dont know whether am rite or wrong but no relation is worth if its with many. You neither get the closeness or pain of that relationship. If you have hundred friends, you dont mind losing one that much and you dont feel the happiness of his support or companionship. that applies to any relationship. thank god ,in most cases ,we have one mom and one dad and problem arises when there are multiple.
so.. lets get back to our topic.What does Women do after a break up. I have seen guys after love break up. One guy jumped from well killing himself and another found a new girl friend and another became philosopher and another a drug addict and another a moron and finally one became a jigolo(one who was ladkiyon ka pujari :) )
But wherever i see, Women's after love failure aim is to cry for sometime ,then say love is bad for sometime and some get a new guy and finally everyone gets married.The best comedy part is they invite their lover to marriage. Very funny. What is she trying to do? trying to show off her happy life she is gonna have or just make the guy feel that she is normal and he should also be normal.
i have heard of few girls committing suicides too. but mostly they were pregnant or had an afffair and got caught or someone who really loved and got betrayed but its very few.
Even in movies, the story of love failure of women is not shown much. When a guy is cheating a girl, there is a female involved. What happens in real life to tht female. I spoke to a girl who had physical relationship with her lover and she broke the relationship with tht guy with some or other relation .I wanted to know whats her future plans. She told .. "Wanna get married to one nice guy" . I asked will you tell your guy about ur affair? . She asked" are you stupid? why would i tell him. I asked whether she would tell tht her hubby was the first guy in her life. She said "Yes. Not only me but all girls do that only. coz guys start doubting in future if we tell truth" .I dont know whether she is doing rite or wrong.but to me its wrong.
Moreover., i am confused like how they can be comfortable with the next guy. Is it my closed environment that makes me think like this? I cannot look into eyes and talk if am ditching someone/lying and how could she do it with such an ease. Women get married and then comes kids and thier life ends taking care of kids and grandchildren .So when do they live their life? Wont their cheating hurt them life long. Though memories fade with time it cant be uprooted completely. One more girl loved a guy for four years and they broke up and both are in the verge of getting into next relation.
are Women more emotionally stable? If they are so stable, why would they fall in love for someone. If they are so unstable, the breakup should pain like hell but how they get ready for next relationship so fast. Till date, i have never seen a girl who dint marry cos of her lvoe failure. If you check out matrimonial section for bride/groom , you can find that elder women who are willing to marry will mostly be divorcess or widows . But i have seen so many Men marrying at 40 or 50 (a late sunshine :) ).
anyways Women i am jus telling bout the world i see..please let me know of the real world of Women..
am sure everyone is smiling or looking angrily at this post. coz we have a saying here that goes like Shahjahan built Taj mahal for his love but no mumtaz builteven a hut for her lover. So i got curious whether love really hurts Women as much it does men. actually am expecting lotsa comments from women side coz i really dont know.
One of my friend (a girl) was in tears for a month after her love break up that i felt very sad for her. But in next few months, she called me up to say "am in love" .I felt her attitude sluttish though i dint tell anythin bout tht to her. I dont know whether am rite or wrong but no relation is worth if its with many. You neither get the closeness or pain of that relationship. If you have hundred friends, you dont mind losing one that much and you dont feel the happiness of his support or companionship. that applies to any relationship. thank god ,in most cases ,we have one mom and one dad and problem arises when there are multiple.
so.. lets get back to our topic.What does Women do after a break up. I have seen guys after love break up. One guy jumped from well killing himself and another found a new girl friend and another became philosopher and another a drug addict and another a moron and finally one became a jigolo(one who was ladkiyon ka pujari :) )
But wherever i see, Women's after love failure aim is to cry for sometime ,then say love is bad for sometime and some get a new guy and finally everyone gets married.The best comedy part is they invite their lover to marriage. Very funny. What is she trying to do? trying to show off her happy life she is gonna have or just make the guy feel that she is normal and he should also be normal.
i have heard of few girls committing suicides too. but mostly they were pregnant or had an afffair and got caught or someone who really loved and got betrayed but its very few.
Even in movies, the story of love failure of women is not shown much. When a guy is cheating a girl, there is a female involved. What happens in real life to tht female. I spoke to a girl who had physical relationship with her lover and she broke the relationship with tht guy with some or other relation .I wanted to know whats her future plans. She told .. "Wanna get married to one nice guy" . I asked will you tell your guy about ur affair? . She asked" are you stupid? why would i tell him. I asked whether she would tell tht her hubby was the first guy in her life. She said "Yes. Not only me but all girls do that only. coz guys start doubting in future if we tell truth" .I dont know whether she is doing rite or wrong.but to me its wrong.
Moreover., i am confused like how they can be comfortable with the next guy. Is it my closed environment that makes me think like this? I cannot look into eyes and talk if am ditching someone/lying and how could she do it with such an ease. Women get married and then comes kids and thier life ends taking care of kids and grandchildren .So when do they live their life? Wont their cheating hurt them life long. Though memories fade with time it cant be uprooted completely. One more girl loved a guy for four years and they broke up and both are in the verge of getting into next relation.
are Women more emotionally stable? If they are so stable, why would they fall in love for someone. If they are so unstable, the breakup should pain like hell but how they get ready for next relationship so fast. Till date, i have never seen a girl who dint marry cos of her lvoe failure. If you check out matrimonial section for bride/groom , you can find that elder women who are willing to marry will mostly be divorcess or widows . But i have seen so many Men marrying at 40 or 50 (a late sunshine :) ).
anyways Women i am jus telling bout the world i see..please let me know of the real world of Women..
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